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You are now about to witness the strength of street knowledge. You're listening to dad's with Swag, where your coach Shawn has the tools to help you navigate some of lifes ups and downs. Let's do it. Whether you're trying to balance work in life, going through a difficult time in marriage or trying to manifest that perfect mate, Shawn can get you from where you are to where you want to be. Loving husband and dadded two amazing girls. Your coach Shunk can help you Trin your dreams into goals and make them a reality. No more faking change. Is kind of start making change with the swaggy'st out of them all. Your coach Seawan, what is up? Welcome back to the swaggiest show of all, DAD's would swag. We're in the DAD's with Swag Studio, but we're going to do a repeat episode of answering listeners questions now. This episode was recorded in our old studio, so all that information is incorrect. Please don't call or email any of that stuff. If you want to hit me up, find me at your coach Shan on social media or email me at Sean. Sean alfonsocom enjoy this episode with motivational life coach, Sean Alfonso Especial dualizing and helping you to get to your full potential in all areas of your life, from improving your professional success do overcoming fears that are holding me back. Single Parent and dad of two amazing young girls, Seawan will teach you how to balance professional success while achieving meaningful relationships. It's Dad's wrist swag and now here's your host, Sean Alfonso. What is up? Welcome back to another Great Week of DAD's with Swag. Thank you for tuning in. Thank you for downloading this episode. However you got to this, thank you for getting to it. If you got any questions, ever, you can hit us up on social media at your coach Sawn. You can email me, Sean Shan alfonsocom on Thursdays from one to two Arizona time. You can call in for it. Oh, FO two, one, zero, six four. Oh, we are on the star worldwide network. This network is awesome. You know what? I have to just give a quick shout out to the to my network that hosts. If you guys are out there and you ever want like, you got some stuff you want to talk about and you want to have your own on demand radio show. You need to check out star worldwide networks. This place is sick. The office is amazing, like you got this view for days. But you could also do this, I guess virtually. You could do all this virtually. I come into the studio because it's down the street from my house. If it wasn't so close to my house, I probably wouldn't know host this show, but Dave sold me on the fact that, Shawn, it's only four minutes away from your house. You have to do it. I said, all right, but you can do it virtually. But the cool like I've walked in the studio and they got like this new monitor thing with the fancy clock on it. Like every day, every week I come here, the studio gets like fancier and fancier. There's like cameras. I'm sure you could do like a video on demand radio show, TV show. You could buy do all kinds of stuff in this place. It's pretty sick. There's like fancy lights everywhere, like I'm looking over my shoulder for like a makeup artist to come like powder my nose or something. Good thing I got a face for radio. I'll need these cameras up in my business all I but no star worldwide network and there's so many cool shows. Like, there's a TV monitor over here. I see a better horses. They got all kinds of stuff. There's a show before mine called mom time. So if you got some there's some mom's listening to the show. They should tune into that. My...

...producer, Wendy, was just telling me about a real estate show that just started up. There's health shows, all kinds of stuff, man, check it out. Star worldwide Networkscom. They got all kinds of cool stuff. You could always subscribe to the show on Itunes. CHECK US out on DADS with swagcom. So today, as listeners questions, I have a young lady who takes care of all my social media and we have been getting questions randomly. Um, so we thought this would be a good week. We had done one a while back. This going to be a good week to do listener questions. So if I'm talking about if somebody asked the question, I'm talking about it and you want to chime in, feel free to hit us up at your coach and you could call in for it. Oh, four, two hundred and six four. Oh, if you haven't submitted a question, call in, give us a shout or hit us up on social media. You could also email me. It's a little bit more discrete that way. Shawn at Shan Alfonsocom and if you don't want me to use your name or your email adgist, just say that in the email because a lot of people, you know, want their privacy. So let's kick it off. The first question, but football starting. Is it okay to take the kids to games? What about tailgating? That's a great question. Like I know me personally, when my daughters were a lot younger, I would take them to Phoenix Mercury WNBA games just because the crowds are so much friendlier and everything was positive. Like if a player in the WNBA like knocks another player over or, you know, fouls another player or something like a hard foul or something like that, they always lend a hand to to help them up. Like in the MBA your teammates have to come help you up, but in the W NBA it's like closest player, whether they're on your team or not on your team, helps you up, and I like that. And then the other cool thing is the fans in the stands they're more pro their team as opposed to anti the visiting team, which is cool. Like, and I try to tell the girls, I'm like, you know what, we can cheer because, you know, we're bar area fans and I'm breeding growing them to become, you know, bar area sport fans. So when we go to games to see our team, the niners are the giants, where the warriors were always the visiting team because they're playing here in Phoenix. So we don't, I don't allow them to boo the any phoenix teams, the diamondbacks, the suns, the cardinals. They can, however, cheer for the forts, cheer for the giants, Cheer for the Warriors, and I think, and that's kind of like what the WNBA does, is like there's not really any booing going on. They're just cheering hard for their team. So with the NFL, my only challenge, and I have yet to take the girls to an NFL game, and here's my reason why. The booze the drunks, and that's my number one reason. So if you can find a safe tailgating environment, I do know that I have some friends that put on like a tailgate at every game and they go all out, like they have it catered and like it's big time and it's family friendly. In the you know, there's everybody has like one or two beers or a glass or two of wine, but nobody's getting like drunken belligerent. So if you can find a cool talegate like that that's family friendly, then I would say yeah, tail getting school, but you kind of have to like scope out the situation because the tail gate right next to you can be filled with a bunch of drunk people and doing, you know, you know God knows what. So you you know, you want to kind of be aware of your environment before you take your kids there. Then the the other thing I'd recommend is...

...most NFL stadiums, I don't know if it's all of them, but most of them and most baseball stadiums and stuff like that, they have a family zone, they have a zone where you can get tickets at and it's like an alcohol free zone. So my recommendation would be staying a zone like that to where you know you can get to the game early before all the drunks are, you know, filling up the concourse, get to your seats, have some sodas, have some cotton, candy, some popcorn, you know, all the good treats and the kind of stay in your zone, stay in your environment. My other recommendation would be the sweet level, sweet level seats. They are a little bit price here, but they tend to be just a little bit more polite, is a good way to put it. It's just a little bit more polite. There's not as much cursing, there's not as much like, you know, a lot of people go there with business associates and stuff, so they're they're on a little bit better behavior because, you know, fans is short for fanatic, and these people, you know, they go to these games and they get fanatic, they get crazy and it's you know, I think that sometimes, you know, they have a couple too many drinks and then their behavior gets away from them. The other recommendation I would strive highly highly recommend is make sure you act like a parent when you're taking your kids to these things. You know, your kids not your homeboy it. You're the parent, so you got to act like it. You cannot be getting all drunk, you can't be swearing and cursing and, you know, making fun of other players like you still have to be a role model. So that would be my my thing. I think it's cool to take your kids to those games. I think that that stuff, you know, gets passed down generation to generation and that's how it starts. But you know, I got some horrible memories. I got an uncle who has a drinking problem and when I was younger, he used to take me to San Francisco Giants Games and he used to make me. He used to put beer like inside my clothes to sneak it into candlestick park, which is messed up, man. You can't be doing that to a kid. So and he would get drunk as hell and like fighting all this stuff. So can't just just be on the lookout for your behavior, man. You know, this could be the game. If you want to take your kids to it, maybe don't drink at all. You know, you don't have to drink to see a sporting event like it doesn't go hand in hand it. Enjoy the experience with your kid, especially if it's a football game, because those things are expensive, man, and even like Baseball Games these days. That, you know, for a family to afford to go to a baseball game and get some food and, like, some seats and everything. You're looking at a couple hundred bucks easy. So, you know, just just be respectful for that. That's a great question, though. I let's see on to the next one. My wife's a great mom, but sometimes I feel like a pinch hitter. All right, this I actually get this question from guys a lot. It's a great question too. I think as men and as it's all starts off as little boys, as a little boys, it's kind of like the girls are going to be the good momm he's. Nobody ever says like boys are going to be, you know, good daddy's. And if you get caught playing with like Barbie dolls or dollies or something like that, you know it's a native. You know people talk negatively about you. You know they'll be some slurs and things of that nature. Maybe talk about your sexuality. Oh that kid must be gay because he's playing with Barbie dolls or something like that, and that's not the case. Guys, we're not backup parents, you're a dad. You know what I'm saying? You're not a backup parent, you're a dad. So you need to act like a dad. So I would recommend take charge. You know what...

I'm saying take the lead. Pick a day, maybe it's a Saturday or you know, whatever it is, and and plan it out. You know, what are you going to do with the kid that day? And plan it out, like take charge. Be Like No, I'm changing the diaper now. Or Hey, babe, on Saturday, you know, I'm taking our kid to the zoo park and into the the zoo. We're going to go grab some lunch, we're going to be home Mike around for I got this, you know. So I think the more you take charge, and and that's going to also say to your wife or your girlfriend or baby mama that okay, okay, he might be able to handle a little bit more than I thought, you know, because if you act like a Bozo, they're going to treat you like a Bozo. If you act like you can't change a diaper, they're going to treat you like you can't change a diaper. And if you can't change the diaper, how to heck is she going to trust you to like babysit or to like watch the kids or to like, you know, be responsible for all the other stuff that needs to be done? So don't act like a backup parent act like a dad and I think that will help you a lot and put some effort into it, make the plans be more authoritative, and I think that. I think that'll help. And if you're listening, hit me up in a couple months let me know how how that goes, how that, how that worked out for you, because I have a feeling it's going to really make some big changes. Be At the word stative and plan some stuff out, and then your wife is going to also be very thankful. She can be like what you mean? I could just like hang out at home, maybe get some house cleaning done easier or faster. Maybe hit the grocery store. Maybe I'm going to go to the mall, maybe I'll get a manicure and pedicure, maybe I'm just going to sit here and read this book. You mean you got this handled? Yeah, I bet you going to get some special tension that night. That's going to work out good for you, so good luck with that. We're about to take the first break here. If you got any questions, you want to chime in on anything we're talking about, feel free to hit me up at your coach Sawn Sean shot off on socom. You could call in for it. O Four, two hundred and six for Hre wind. He's waiting to take your call. All the music today is artists that were associated with the late great Jerry Heller. Now Jerry Heller just passed away. For those people that don't know who Jerry is, Jerry was the manager of ruthless records and thus the manager of Nwa. And actually, by being the manager, a lot of people just relate ruthless records to Nwa. So I kind of went like a little different. The first one's kind of obvious, and then after that I kind of went deeper and deeper and deeper. But ruthless records, they had a group of artists that were amazing that most people probably don't even know who came off their tree. Black eyed peas got it start under a different name with ruthless records. The first ever white rapper got her start with ruthless records. Micheal A, the the list just goes on and on and on and on. Jj Fad, like so many people, were on their label and Jerry, it was his business aclaman, that kept shit together. Now I know there's a lot of people out there that are like, oh, he hustled Andwa he ripped off easy, and I don't really agree with that. I think he got his agreed upon twenty percent. I think he made sure he always got paid. I think that when...

...a lot of artists sign the dotted line and they don't read the fine print, they don't realize that they're responsible for all their own expenses. They're responsible for making their videos, they're responsible for paying for their studio time, they're responsible for all that booze are drinking at the club, they're responsible for anything that they break in a hotel like. Those expenses all come out of their pocket. They don't come out of Jerry's pocket. Jerry gets pay off the top. You know, that's the cool thing about artists that go, you know, independent, because then they are they're responsible for their own expenses and they get to keep their own profit. Big Shout out to my boy, you know, e forty, with sick witted records, you know, he independent, one of the greatest independent artists of all time. He gets all his paper, it's all his. But you know what, you never see that dude acting all crazy in the club. You never see that dude, you know, busting out hotel rooms and doing all this crazy stuff because he gets his paper and he wants to keep that paper. He don't want to give it to somebody else. Right he's being responsible. So in my opinion I think Jerry Heller, you know, was a huge influence in hardcore hip hop, or at I think that without his guidance the industry would probably be where it's at today, because it was coming no matter what. People wanted to say what they needed to say and people wanted to hear what needed to be said. But I think he definitely advanced it at our more rapid pace for the west coast. So our first song, it's an easy one. You know, summer's ending. Is still a hundred degrees here in Arizona, so we're still in the middle of summer. It's actually kind of like the beginning of the end of our summer, because now that it's under a hundred and fifteen degrees, we could actually go outside. So this is when, like, you're really starting to have your pool parties and you're really starting to go out on the lake and do all the summer festivities, because if you try to do that stuff when it's a hundred fifteen here's gonna fry like an egg. So this is kind of like the beginning to the end of our summer, which is kind of cool. So we got ice cube. It was a good day breaks waking up in the morning. Gotta thank God. I don't know what today s kind of no Barnet from the dog, small and Mama could breakfast with no. I got my girl bone but didn't tick out. Funny. Gotta come from the girl. Wanna dig out up later as I hit it. Don't think it will another twenty. I gotta go Cuz I got me a topping it my hit the switch. I can make the stout looking in my mirror. Not a jacker and everything is all right. I gotta beat from and she can fuck what the the homies and I'm Max in your which are Y'all playing basket? Leave me on the court and I'm drumed. Last week buck around and got a triple double. freaking niggas everywhere like M Jay. I can't believe today was a good pat to hit the showers. Need to get no static from the cowers. Good todays tried...

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...say three. Say you have like three pregnancies, you know, like a dad get somebody pregnant three times his whole life. That's three opportunities. You get to witness an amazing and amazing event, and it one. It's great to support your wife, right, because that's what a lot of people, you know, go. Go soupport your wife, go support you, but I'm going to I'M gonna call bullshit on that. You need to do it for you, because there is not another experience, another memory, another championship ring, another anything in the entire world that will ever, ever, ever come close, and this is from a dude who's done it twice now, that will come close to witnessing the birth of your child. Nothing. The only thing that might come close would be like signing those adoption papers, when you're taking responsibility for another life, whether you adopt or have it. Naturally, God put that life in your life. It's even if you adopt. I know for a fact God out of hand in it. So when you sign those papers, that might be equally as amazing as the birthing process, and we talked about a couple or last week. I think about evolution and how every year we're getting better than we were the year before, right, and with the racism, it's not over, but it's better than it was last year and it's better than it was twenty years ago and it's better than it was forty years ago. Well, you know what, dudes, we're better than we were to and we need to be active dads. So there's going to be some heat, there's going to be some backlash, right, because you know you're the star player, you're the one that's, you know, giving these people hope. And you know, even if you're you know, even if you're the quarterback and all the weight rests on your shoulders, how long are you going to be a quarterback? How long are you going to be a wide receiver? How long are you going to be a starting pitcher or the the greatest hitter? Right, let's five hundred and ten, fifteen years tops. How long are you going to be a dad? Right, that doesn't stop you don't want to start off on a bad foot. So if it means missing a game or four games or five games, that's okay, because your kids going to love you forever. Right. Your kids going to always be there for you. These fans, what if you get traded the next season? You're going to be mud to these fans, these fans that you missed the birth of your child for, are going to give a shit about you no more. What about after you retire? You think they're going to care about you? When the new person comes in and takes your position and does better than you did, they're not going to care about you no more. You need to do is right for you. Right and there is absolutely nothing. There's nothing in the world. I don't care if you have a meeting with the pope. You know what, invite him to come meet you at the hospital. Now. I do understand that there's a lot of people, you know, especially like servicemen and women, that are overseas and they can't be there for the birth of their kids. You can, you have that option. Don't you think they would? You know, if someone, if someone's overseas or somewhere far away and they just can't there's...

...nothing they can do right to get there. Don't you think that they wish that they were in your position? They be like, I'd let you. I let people yell at me for the next month to be able to witness the birth of my kids. Don't do it for your wife, don't do it for your kids, do it for you because, at the end of the job, being a professional athlete is just the job, right. It's just the job. You're having fun, you're doing something that a lot of people wish they can do, and you're making a lot of money. But you know what? Financial advisors make a lot of money, movie stars make a lot of money, rappers and musicians make a lot of money. There's a lot of people out there that make a lot of money. Bill Gates makes a lot of money. Let's take it a step further. What about Zuckerberg? That dude makes some cash. Oh and he took like six months off for a birth of his kid. Right, that's how you do it doesn't matter. You think he gives a crap with the shareholders? Think you think he gives a crap with the board of directors? Think, no, he doesn't, because he only needs to answer to him and there's no way, no matter how successful facebook or any other things that he invests his money in or his time and nothing will come close to the experience of witnessing your child being born. Nothing. So, man, I tell you straight up, whatever kind of heat you need to get, to receive or you think you might get, you take the day off work, you take the week off work, you take the month off work. You know, if you're out there and you're working a job at the circle K or you're working in an accounting firm or you're an attorney in a big case is coming up. They'll be more big cases, I promise. Tax Seasons coming around again next year. The world will continue to turn. If you miss a day at work or a week at work or a month at work to experience something that you're only going to experience if you're lucky. There are a lot of people out there that can't even ever experience that. So if you're lucky you get to experience this a couple times in your entire life, take advantage of it because you don't want to regret it. You don't want to look back five, ten, fifteen years from now and regret it. You know when that company fires you for no cause, right, because they want to outsource your job. Hearing me like what, you just let me go and I missed the birth of my kid for you know, they'll be more jobs, I promise you. All right, on to the next question. I'm about to have a baby and I'm afraid I won't bond with him as much as mine, as much as his mom, because she's staying at home and I'll be working. That's that's another good question. Bonding with your kids. That's an important thing to do, especially at a young age, and I know I there. I get a lot of clients, a lot of male clients, that come to me and they're like, you know, I need to be a more impactful dad, but you know, we have this lifestyle. You know, as always, the the lifestyle, or my wife expects this, or you know this or that. Here's the thing. If you put your family first, all the other shit will fall into place. Right. It will. If you tell yourself I need to be off work at five o'clock every day, or I need to be off work at four clock every day and I have eight hours or six hours or nine hours or twelve hours or whatever it is, to get my work done and that's it, because there's...

...a hard line time that I'm leaving. You'll get that work done right, because you know, nothing stopping me from leaving at this time. And that's how you need to, you know, focus your life. Less time at the water cooler, less time chopping it up with colleagues. You know, shorter lunch periods. Eat Lunch at your desk. You know, instead of walking to a sales call, run to the sales call. Instead of stopping its starbucks drive through, don't bring a cup of coffee in a cup and drinking in your car. There's all these little crappy things that you can take out of your day so you can be more effective at work, more focused at work. So then when you get home, then you spend that time with your kid, right, and now here's the thing. Everybody's like, oh my gosh, you have a baby, you don't sleep. That's not true. Baby sleep all the time, right. So so you get home at five o'clock, you give the baby a little some to eat, the baby is going to fall asleep, right. So you get some like baby time. Here's what you do, though, to get the most amount of like bonding. What's an infant, like a newborn infant, is through skin to skin contact, right. So, like when the MOM's breastfeeding, they're having skin to skin contact. So what I'd recommend for you, especially if you want to like amp up the bonding time, since you have a limited amount of time and you're not home all day every day, I'd recommend that, like when the baby is about to fall asleep, just take your shirt off, have some skin to skin contact. You know, maybe if it's cold out orhever, you could put a blanket over the two of you, but that skin to skin contact is really going to enhance that bonding and and and make it a point be like Yo, Babe, from five o'clock till eight o'clock, it's me and baby time. I'm responsible for everything. I don't care how hard of a day you've had at work. You could take three hours to just be responsible for your baby, have some signdy skin bonding time. Maybe seeing some songs, you know, read stories. The APP people are like drew. You read stories to babies. Of course, you great stories to babies, singing songs to them, anything to where they're they're hearing your voice and especially that skin to skin contact, because then they're also feeling the vibration of your voice. You know, you be responsible for putting the baby to bed and then from you know, eight to ten, or you know whatever time till you go to bed, to make sure that you make that you and Mamatime, because you can't just drop her feelings or the time that you typically would give to her after work. You can't drop that by the wayside. You still need to be engaged in that relationship. So make sure just plan better. Plan your work day better so you can get off at a decent time, plan your at home baby daddy time and then plan your you and Mama Time. And I think if you just plan your day out better, things will fall into place and that skin to skin contact kissing also like, you know, kissing your baby. Man, it don't hurt. And another shout out I had, I talked about this in an episode a while ago, Bill Bella check. You know, he won the Super Bowl a couple years ago and people were given him flat for him kissing his daughter on the lips. No, a man kiss, kiss, Kiss, show affection. You want to bond with your baby, kiss the crap out of them. Kiss them up kiss them up, kiss them up. My daughter's in middle school. She still got a kiss me every day and it's not weird because you know why, I've kissed her twenty times a day ever since she was born. It's not creepy, it's not weird. I love my daughter. I will kiss her till the day I die or my lips don't work, one of the two, and then if my lips stopped working, she better keep kissing me. So no kisses, kisses, kisses...

...and skin to skin contact and talking your voice. That'll all help with the bonding experience. But that's a great question, man, and I'm glad that you're being proactive about this. I replied to your email and told you I was proud of the proactiveness that you're taken. It shows a lot of responsibility and I think with this proactive approach, I don't think you're gonna have to worry about it. I think that just being as proactive as you're being is going to set the pace and the and and God will make sure that everything else falls into place. All right, we're about to take our next break. If you got any questions, hit us up on social media at your coach on. You could email, as Shaun shot off on socom. You got about twenty minutes. You can call in for it. O Four th two hundred and twenty six four. Oh, if you're downloading this and it's past two PM on Thursday, then you cannot call us because no one will answer and if somebody does answer, is probably for somebody else's show. So you might have to talk about horses or health or real estate or something. So only if you're listening on Thursday, is between one and two aries only time you can call into that number. Other than that, hit us up on social media. You can check us out. Dad's with swagcom. Check out all the other shows on Star worldwidecom. So my next song here is Atba and clan. Now this group is a roothless record group. This is a Jerry Heller Group. This group later became the black eyed peas. Open your mind. Anna take you one another Dimond Shit. When your mind didn't read, I'm gonna take you one another die and take you on the Diamond Shit. Make your mind muddy everyone. I'm active. I am ever ready last. Don't get the accent. That's get full of foot my blivers. Don't get it. And I'm getting it out. The fuck with that set. I don't live in the one you're jerking me. I'm easily churn them faces from the top of the your mind to take you on another diamond ship. Your mind didn't. I'm gonna take you on another. Die and open your mind and take you on another did. Make your mind and takes you be in the Niggable Hill of the planets, milt locate to wake out,...

...approach the dominate doubt of black well, excuse me this and let it melt with this one. I'm technical in the front of the take you on another dimension. Make your mind. If I'm going to take you one another diepen your mind. Hey, everybody, Ed Vanderley here, the host of s something. Do you love the s? Did you live to the s? Do you miss the s? Every week we celebrate the decade of decadence right here on star worldwide network. With s something. We take you back in time. We talked about music, movies, TV, fashion, the Games, whatever comes to mind. So join me here each week on one thousand nine hundred eighty something on star worldwide networks. You're listening to Sean Alfonso Dan's with Swag. Now back to Jean. Hey, what's up everybody? Welcome Back Dad's with swag. You can hit me up at your or coach Sean on all social media. Feel free to email me. Sean Shanofonsecom. Can't call in anymore. That's it. Phone Lenes are down now. I just can you get us up for it. O undred and four hundred. Dad's a swagcom. We're on the star World Wide Network. Make sure you check out the whole network. They got all kinds of different shows, man, it's awesome. Back to listeners questions. That's this week is all about my daughter starting to date and I can't deal. Well, I'm right it are with you, man. I don't even know what I would do if my daughter started dating. It's scary, you know, because a you want to have faith that you were first of all, and I've said this before, your daughter's going to date somebody just like you. So if you're a jackass, your daughters only going to day Jack Asses. So step your game up, be the man that you want her to date. Right. So then that will alleviate a little bit of your stress. But if you hadn't done that and you haven't paved the the road and she's dating jerks. It's a...

...challenge because if you push back, it's going to only make her want to date that jerk even more or, if it's a boy, it's only going to make her want him, want to date that crazy girl that much more. So it's definitely you know what I would recommend? Hit up my friend Joe DYK. She's been on this show before. She came and talked about puberty. She knows. She's the expert and we should have called her. That's what I should have done. I should have called her up had her comment on this one. But contact Joe D K. She could walk you through this. She can walk you through the dating you know if you've already messed up and you've already haven't shown you know being a good example and a good role model for your kids dating practices and you want to start now. Hit her up. The rights of passages DOT Biz, I believe, is her website. If not, go check out one of our other episodes when we talked about puberty and all her informations on that episode. But hit up jody teller. Sean sent you and that you need some help dealing with dating because you're stressed out and you're afraid, and that's cool. Like it's okay to be afraid, like as parents, and it's okay to ask for help. Like as parents. We don't know everything. I'm an expert and parenting and I still don't know crap. I got a contact other experts like jody to help me with things. You know, I might be able to change a tire, but that doesn't mean that I don't have to call up a mechanic to like fix my carburetor, you know. So it's cool to like ask for help. So that's what I would do. I hit of jody and I'm sure she can walk you through it. Next question. I want to leave my wife, but I'm afraid I won't see my kids. That's a great question. It kind of goes back, though, so the answer I gave for another question. You have to prioritize. You know your wife's argument is going to be here. Works too much. He's never present, so you got to make sure you could counter that. You got to cut back your time at work and you're wondering, well, how the heck am I going to cut back my time at work when I got to support two families? If I leave my wife, right, I got to have my household, I still got to pay for her household, we got to still pay for the kids. Now's not the time for me to cutting back. Now's the time for me to find a second job. That's not the case. In reality. We all, like I was saying before, we all spend so much time doing dumb stuff, right, whether it's social media on our phone or, you know, spending too much time at lunch or chit chatting with co workers. Like all we waste so much time doing so many things that are not relevant. Cut that stuff out and plan your time better, you know, maybe if you want to. You know, the popular parenting plan now is a five, two, two five plan, to where, you know, you get your kids on like every Wednesday and Thursday and then the mom gets the kids every Monday and Tuesday and then you have off and on weekends. So basically, you know you'll have the kids for five days, you know, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday Sunday. Then the mom will have the kids, you know, for two days, Monday and Tuesday, and then you'll have the kids Thursday and Friday and then the mom will have them Fridays outday, Sunday, Monday, Tuesday. So it's called a five, two to five plan. So you can rock one of those plans with kids, you know, easily, because you can just work less on the Wednesdays, Thursdays and Fridays that you have your kids and then work more on the Monday's, Tuesdays and Fridays you don't have your kids. But it's all about planning, you know. If you fail to plan, you plan to fail. Don't let anyone tell you how impactful of a parent...

...you can be or how much time you can spend with your kids. You're the only person gets to make that choice, and if you choose to spend time with your kids, then it's going to work out right, just like if you choose to get drunk, you'll always get drunk if you choose to. You know, whatever you choose to do in life. If you choose to have a twelve hour work day, you're going to have a twelve hour work day. And if you choose to say I'm going to do twelve hours of work in six hours, you will be able to. I promise you. I guarantee you you can do it. Just buckle down and do what you got to do, because nothing's more important than your kids. This last song we're about to take. I know that was a quick little segment. I'm running out of time. I got too winded chatting it up here with you guys. Our last song, another ruthless record tree artist, another Jerry Heller, find jj bad supersonic for Jaj Fett, and we're here to row. All Times like us can never be stopped. See is pretty of us, and I know we're fresh party rocks. Not Stop US and our names of death. See the Jays for just the other foot, Damon the EVERSPA fresh a ind depth behind the turntables is DJ train Miss An. Aspection is the name of the game. Now here's a little something about nosy people. It's not real heart. It's playing and simple, baby d super sonic, sonic mood of lady runs. Everybody knows the Jaj Fad. We know your life of girl. So your bet a deep stirs me on the home chicks that are rocking your world for sonic. When people start to listen, especially get people close, you might never leave this. You might not seven buy it. It comes a lady, you might even try it. Super Sonic supersonic. People like the bike. All rhymes to day bad. They hit no point. Super Sonic. A little white sounds way supernat. I know you are like my fresh in a blow your mind if you don't like my beef. All okay, in your behind now, you boy people know what supersonic mean. We didn't talk a brackets Ja clean. You know that all rights are so banic. Listen to hard. Don't be supersonic. Super and the unique affection and you know that we are free for sonic and art.

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