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Random Acts of Candice

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Candice and Sean talk about “world Schooling” as she traveled the world with her kids and a manie. rxbar.com/swag for 25% off your first order

You are now about to witness the strength of street knowledge. You're listening to dad's with Swag, where your coach Shawn has the tools to help you navigate some of lifes ups and downs. Let's do it. Whether you're trying to balance work in life, going through a difficult time in marriage or trying to manifest that perfect mate, Shawn can get you from where you are to where you want to be. Loving husband and dadded two amazing girls. Your coach Shunk can help you Trin your dreams into goals and make them a reality. No more faking change. Is kind of start making change with the swaggy's out of them all, your coach Seawan. What welcome back to dad's with swag. We live here in the swaggiest studios of all the brand new dad's with swag studios. Thank you for tuning into another great episode. If you've missed any of our past episodes, make sure you check them on out. On Dad's with swagcom. You can go to Itunes, pod Bay, I heart radio, any of the places that your favorite podcasts are hosted. Don't forget to hit that subscribe button and let the swag flow in to recommend a topic for the show or if you want to come on the show, hit us up at Sean at Sean alfonsocom follow us on all social media at your coach on this week, man, I got a great episode for you. I got my good friend candace in a studio and she's here to talk about her blog, random acts of candace. Huh, that's a pretty cool name, candice. How'd you come up with that name? Because I really didn't know. I had no idea what exactly I wanted to talk about and I spend a lot of yer studying yoga, and random acts of kindness is like, you know, compassion and being kind. And when I started talking about self love, I realized that random acts of canvas is perfect, because sometimes I talk about meditation and sometimes I talk about masturbation, so pretty much flows. So it's kind of like all over the place. That's perfect. I am all over the place. So one of the cool things that I that I saw was you have tell me a little bit about your kids, in yourself and your family. I have two children, two boys, ten and twelve. They we have been world schooling actually for the past couple of years and I believe that's what you brought me on here for was the world schooling and it's been really interesting. About five years ago I was working in a charter school. I was teaching Yoga and my kids were kindergarten and first grade, and my husband at the time wanted to move to Puerto Rico and he wanted to start a tattoo shop. So I had to resign for my position Teaching Yoga at the school and follow his dreams to Puerto Rico. Well, after that didn't work, we got a divorce, I came back to the states. I didn't want to go back into the school system. Working in the school system you get a completely different, you know, view of of the way things are. And I wanted to travel. I wanted Puerto Rico opened up my eyes. I wanted my children to see so much. I wanted to travel. So I was like, well, how am I going to do this as a single mom? How am I going to take my kids everywhere? So I was like, Hmm, I guess I will be a stripper. So that's what I did. I started dancing and then it started with going from friends and families houses so I'd have someone to watch my children, to hiring a full time. I called him a manny. He was my he was a traveling nanny and he came with me from place to place so I could work and I can show my kids, you know, the different places we're going to at the same time and it just turned into really...

...an adventure, very cool. So what made you think of this world schooling concept? Like, how did that, how did that come into your brain? I was working at the school, Teaching Yoga every day, Getting Ready, preparing to move to Puerto Rico and terrified to put my children in the Public School System in Puerto Rico, and I found homeschooling, and there are a hundred different methods of homes going. And then I found unschooling and there was this girl, I cannot remember her name to reference her, but she was about twenty three years old and she had grew up as an unschooler and I found her youtube channel and she was telling all of the things that she experienced and that she did and the way her parents raised her, and I was like this is the most brilliant child I have ever followed. So I was like, I want my children to be that brilliant. So I bought a couple of books on Amazon, I did some reading and then when I went to Puerto Rico, I didn't pressure my kids to learn. My oldest son, who is twelve now, he's dyslexic and when he was in kindergarten he was struggling with reading and by first grade they had him, they had him actually Tuesday and Thursday staying after school for an extra hour, taking fifteen minutes out of recess time with with a coach, learning how, you know, to annunciate his words and working on his grammar and his reading. And I was like for a first grade child, this was just way too much for me. And the method of unschooling is called child led learning, where all children learn at different paces and their minds developed differently. So I didn't want to force my child to read when he wasn't ready to read, especially when it was making him not like reading. He was getting so stressed out he's like, I don't want to do it anymore, mom and I could see it in his face he was going to cry. So I was like, you know what, you don't have to read, not till you're ready to read. And now he's twelve years old and he's actually asked me to go back to school. So I've enrolled him in school with my at my sister's house and he's telling me that he hates the weekends and he can't wait to go back to school. So, you know, like they're when they're ready, they're ready. You can't force it. Yeah, definitely. It's like it doesn't as I who's to say that, you know, just because your five means you're ready to start your education exactly? Some people just need, you know, late bloomers or whatever, you know, need to start a little bit, a little bit later in life. What are some of the positive things that your kids have received from unschooling, or world schooling you call it? There's just so much her like. They they can carry a conversation with an adult and every single per everywhere we go, people stop me and say I feel like I'm talking to a grown up right now. I had no idea I was talking to a child. They're just there. They're just very wise and then they have more common sense, I think then I see out there in the world these days. Okay. And then what are some drawbacks to world schooling that you found so far? The lack of having that best friend, you know, like I grew up in school and I had my best friend. I went over her house, I spent the night. It was after school. You played with your friends and you have that group of that click that you grow up with. When your world school, you're traveling a lot. My children have a lot of friends all over the place. Thanks to social media, they have their own facebooks and they they link up with kids. We come in every time we go down to Qwest there is there's a homeschooling group and all of the people live on their sailboats. So when they're traveling the world and they come into q west, they docked their sailboats and then they link up with the homeschooling group and then they get to meet these friends. But then they get on their boats and there...

...there in the Bahamas or then they're in the Caribbean. So my kids miss their friends. So I think that's the drawback, is not having, you know, your everyday best friend. So we're some like the cool places that your kids have gotten to see. Well, aside from the Caribbean and a few cruises, we did a road trip across country all the way. We went to we made it to Vegas and flew back went to the Grand Canyon, the Great Wolf Conservation, which was really nice because my son loves wolves. They've been to Canada. They lived in St John's, Newfoundland for six months. My son started a dog walking business there and he was making his own money. My other one wasn't interested. He just kept bugging me for money. That's the way it goes something. Yeah, they've. They've traveled a lot of Canada, the United States. They've gotten to Mexico and the Caribbean. Very haven't gone. We haven't gone across the ocean yet, but that's next. That's the next the next thought on. Now that your son's in school, though, it's going to have to be like summertime travels. Yes, well, this is our trial. He's going it until June and then at the end of the school year he's going to ask me what he wants to do and if he wants to continue with school, then I'll make it happen and we'll see where it goes. Definitely, definitely. Would would be some advice that you would give a new parent that wanted to start unschooling or world schooling their child? Don't listen to anybody else, don't listen to all the other parents, because everybody's going to tell you what you need to do and what you have to do and what your child should be doing. And you know your child better than anyone else and your child will tell you what he wants or what she wants, because they just do. You just have to listen to them. That's all they want is attention. When they're bad, they want attention, when they're throwing temper tantrums, they want attention. All you have to do is listen to them. Yeah, see you let that's I agree a hundred percent. I think some people, you know, it's that whole because I said so mentality. But sometimes we have to remember to not just say because I said so and also remember to ask why do you want this, like why is this important to you? And I'm like, he said, listen to a response and not just you know, oh, because I'm the parent, and you know because I told you that. You know you have to do this. So your first song, simple man by shining down. What what made you pick that song? Why is that special to you? That song is always my favorite song. I grew up listening to it and being a hopeless romantic, that's what I always wanted I wanted the simple man. I wanted, you know, the guy who's just going to come home every day and love me forever. And that's pretty much what everyone wants. And then as I grew up, it turned into what I wanted my boys to be, because I've, you know, I've lived a lot of different lifestyles and I know the materialistic life and I know the simple life and I've had money and I've not had money, and at the end of the day, I was happiest when I was just being very simple and just very, you know, downs earth, very cool, very cool. All right, we got it here. The simple man. Yes, well, Mama's on me when I was you sits it beside me, my ownest. So listen clothesly to what I say. Do this. It'll help you. Some say we I'll take your time. Don't live too fast.

Troubles will call and they will pass. You'll find warm and you'll find love, and don't forgive that there is a someone you loved heavy by this carve. The rich man is in your face. Try, my son, you'll find your heart. It's if you now back to dad's with swag, with your host Shawn up on some welcome back. Man, that was a good jam. Thanks for sharing that with this candice. If you guys want...

...to check out any of our previous episodes on Dad, you could find dad's with sweat makes you git up my heart radio it all the other place your podcasts. You can go to Sean at Sean Alfonsocom and let me know if you want to be on the show or you have any guests that you think you'd like to be on the show. Remember hit us up on social media at your coach, Shan. Are you a dad that has no idea where to get that perfect birthday gift, that last minute birthday party your kid just told you about? Wife he's on a girl's trip and you need to find the swaggiest thing to do with your kids. Make sure you go to that one stop shop made for Dad's by DAD'S A Z, dad'Scom I. Candis, let's talk about this blog. You got a little bit here, random acts of candace. Yes, I loved your post on social sadness. Can you tell my listeners a little bit about that post and like what what drew you to write that up? You know that post actually was a collaboration with Chelsea. Chelsea is my she's actually my wife up she's in Canada and her and I were just we went to order a water at a restaurant will we were ordering lunch and we wanted a water and the waiter actually had an attitude because we didn't want an alcoholic beverage. And we just had this conversation about how it's just so sad that it's not okay to order a water, but that's the best thing you can put in your body, honestly, and the waiter, you know, was treating it like, well, they're not ordering an alcoholic beverage, they're not going to give us a good tip. Here's goes a bunch of cheap girls again. And and I honestly wanted a water because I was thirsty, for no other reason than being thirsty. And the conversation turned into how terrible everything is, everything is so sad. It's you know, if if you don't follow the stigmas or if you don't follow what society is doing, then then it's not right and it's sad, it really is. It comes down to social media. We're so droned into our phones we're not interacting with people anymore. You can sit in the same room with somebody and you'll send them a text or a facebook message before you turn around and ask them a question physically, and it's just gotten to where there's no real connections whatsoever and everything is so superficial. So the post goes from it goes from the water into so many different things I can't remember. I was just I was rambling, it was just flowing. So I don't you know, it's funny. I don't drink much either, and I get that same that same like shade thrown it me sometimes when I go to a restaurant and it's like I'll take a soda water with Lime. Yeah, my wife's trying, because before I would just order a coke. I'll watch trying to give me a cutback on soda. So I just drink soda water with life. But then, yeah, good wife, good wife. But then like it's funny because then the weights. That's kind of like looking at you like, and I understand like you work off tips and things like that, but your number one job is to serve me exactly. I'm not going to treat you like a servant, but your job is to serve me and I'm coming to your place of employment and if I want to order a soda water, I'm going to order a soda water, and if I want to have a soda water in a Salad, then I'm having a Soda Water in a salad and that's that. If you don't yeah like that, then find a different type of employment, because it is is funny and until I read your blog post I never really thought about that, but as I was reflecting back, I'm like, that happens to me all the time. And my wife she only drinks two things, alcohol and water, and that's it, like no lemonade's, no iced tea's no, nothing else. So it happens to her a lot as well, but she was born and raised here in Arizona, and...

I think in Arizona it because it gets so hot that it's approved a little more right, because there are a lot of people who just drink water, especially during the daytime, because it's so important. Like they'll bring water to your table right when you sit down, so then it's like you don't have that awkwardness of what would you like to drink exactly. Then it's like, okay, the water is already right here. But it's funny how that like that that happens so often into so many people. What are some other topics you might want to tackle on random acts of candash? Well, random acts of candace started as just documenting my journey really, and it's turned into keeping up with where I'm going and what I'm doing. But I don't know where it's going because it's like it's the place where I just pour whatever's on my mind out. It's like my outlet to the world because I'm in person I'm quiet, but get me behind a keyboard and I'm lowed. So that's like that's where I just let it all go really and I'm planning a trip to Japan in April right now and I'm going to be blogging the entire journey. I'm you know, I have another I have two more strip trips I want to take before April. When I travel and dance, I call them strip trips and I know my guy readers prefer my strip trips, my lady readers prefer my yoga. So I kind of keep it all in there, but just it's I enjoy it. I think that's what it is. More than anything. I like writing. What do you think is the most challenging part of being a stripper and a mom. The soccer moms remember the group, and Key West. I was telling you about the homeschooling MOM's. So we had a field trip at the turtle we released a sea turtle to the wild and all of the everyone joined and we were all there and it was a great day. But then at the end of the day all of the kids were going back to the one boat and it was the husband and the wives and me, being a single mom stripper in my Bikini and the keys. We weren't invited and I felt bad for my kids that we weren't invited because, and I know exactly what it was, the other moms didn't want Dad's looking at me in my bikini any longer than they already had to, and it was really uncomfortable for me to explain to my kids why we weren't being invited, so I had to pretend I had a headache and it was sad. I felt bad for them. Yeah, you know what, it's funny because I was a single dad for a long time until my I met my wife, and I kind of had a lot of the same stuff too, I would say, like as a stayathome dad or a single dad. Your biggest challenge is the soccer moms as well. They're being they're mean and they're clicky and they just, you know, that's why I love this Az Dad'Scom so much because it kind of takes that stigma away. It's just a group. For Get dad's by DADS. We have our they you know, their own play groups and everything like that, but it is man those like soccer moms, you know, they just get together and they too just outcast everybody else who's not the same as them, and it's kind of challenging, you know, because especially, you know, we live here in like suburbia, Phoenix, and I'm from San Francisco, so you know, my kids go like this really preppy private school. So it's it's a challenge sometimes because I don't necessarily have a lot in common with a lot of the other parents and I'm extremely introverted. So when we do have these big, you know, class things and I already don't have much in common with them because I like more hiphop and like loud music and I raise my kids a different way and it's kind of I got that too's like you got tattoos and it's like I...

...kind of popped. Yeah, and people kind of just like look at you, and it's and it's challenging. It's challenging, it's it's kind of, it's kind of, it's I'm saddened to hear your story, but I'm kind of refreshed it as well that it doesn't just happen to the dads that and you know, I there as well. I like the DAD's. I've got a lot of guy friends that are single dads and I get a lot of I get a lot of shade thrown at me for that too, because they think that I'm sleeping with them. Yeah, actually, as a matter of fact, I've I've had family members say that. They say that, oh, because I have a lot of friends, a lot of Guy Friends, that I'm just sleeping with all of them, know, because they actually I can relate to them. Yeah, I can hang out with the single dads and have a conversation without being judged. Yeah, and maybe they do want to sleep with me, of course. I mean I am attractive, but they don't try. They respect me and I like that and I appreciate that. And it's not always about what people think. It's about definitely, yeah, I think I've been accused of sleeping with every single teacher on campus and every mom going through have gone through a divorce. I'm like, I don't got enough time to sleep with all of these women, let alone the desire to do so. It's it's it's kind of funny when there's like a goodlooking person and they have friends of the opposite sex, it's like automatically there must be you know, something that that's a miss. You know, it's crazy, but that's why I'm so happy I have like a beautiful young wife who doesn't trip about any of that shit. She's like great, those moms are crazy, like you know, you know, you too busy with two kids and a wife and stuff like that. It it keeps me busy. So this second song you got tool yes, tell me a little bit. Well, about a Nemia, and Nemia is actually it's actually a very dark song, but when I dance at work I like slow, dark and sexy. But it's like about Mother Nature Wiping away all of the sens and I love how he says Mother's going to fix it all, wash it away, because everything is so corrupt and our world is changing and when I hear this song and I think about the hurricanes that are coming and the fires and the tsunamis in the and everything, it just reminds me that life is so damned short. Why am I going to waste it stressed out about little things and all the little things that people stress about like it's just not worth it for me. That's why I world school. I Want my children to see the world before it's gone, really, because there's so many beautiful things to see and it's a waste to spend your entire life worrying about your test scores. Definitely. Yeah, here we go, tool anemia, for your pilot friend,...

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Shawn off Onso. Welcome back to dad's with swag. If you want to check out any of our past episodes, go to dad's with Swagcom make sure you hit up I heart radio or itunes and get that subscribe button. Keep this swag going all week long. Automatically download straight to your iphone, Samsung Computer, whatever you need if you have any topics you want to recommend or if you want to come on the show, hit me up. Shan. Shan alfonsocom. Don't forget to follow us on social media. At your coach, Shan. With my family's busy schedule, we're always looking for healthy snacks. Our go to snacks are R xbar kids. They are the same high quality taste wife and I enjoy, but in a size and flavors that kids love, still made with real ingredients and in label. Even I can read enough about what's in our expar kids. Let's talk about what's not in them. No sugar, gluten, soy or dairy. With Bell's crazy dance company schedule, I always make sure she has her favorite apple cinnamon raised in R xbar kids in her dance bag. For Ava Barry blast is her go to snack for acting class, especially when she always brings that yummy chocolate chip to school. Find them a target or go to R xbarcom forwards Lash Swag and get your twenty five percent off. Once again. That's our xbarcom forward swag for your twenty five percent off. So, candice, you're in the middle of writing a book. HMM. Therapist in the Thong. Yes, how'd you come up with that title? I came up with that title when I went back to dancing after teaching yoga for seven years. I looked around and my perspective change so much I had no idea who I was anymore. I'll take you back. Before I was a dancer and it was just about the money. That's all I cared about. I go to work and everybody was a dollar bill. If I was sitting with you longer than five minutes and we hadn't talked about making money, I was moving on. And then, you know, I got married, I had kids, I taught Yoga. My life change so drastically and then I ended up being a dancer again and all I saw was empty people, sad people. And it wasn't necessarily Sarahly that people were coming in the Strip club just for sexual favors, which in this and age with Internet porn it's pretty bad. But people just want...

...someone to talk to, they really do. And when and after going in the champagne room and just having a guy sit there and say, well, you don't have to dance, I just want to talk, over and over and over again, I just started thinking like there's more to this. There's way more to this than than what people see, and I want to expose it. Yeah, yeah, so there you go, and throw it down, and throw it down in a book. Yeah, so you've been working on his book for a little bit of time. When was the moment where you realize? You're like, you know what, I need to take the time and effort and just, you know, throw this into a book. Like where was that Aha moment? That said, this needs to come down into a book. I was actually in transition after I left my husband. I was living with my dad and I was laying in his hammock looking up at the sky and I had just read a motivational book. Which book was it? By David Bach, get your money right type of book, and I was like what am I going to do with myself right now? And I was like, well, I could write a book. What could I write about? And then I was thinking about the dancing and I was thinking about everything and I was just like, the industry is so sad and I and I was I remember looking up and I was looking up at the trees and I'm laying in the HAMMOCK and I took a picture of my toes and I just all these ideas were just flowing into my head and I just knew that that's what I want to talk about. It was the industry and I wanted to and I didn't want to talk about it as another stripper book, how to make money, how to be a stripper, because we lack connections in this world. People just are lacking connections so bad that they're craving it. It is is people really desire that common, one on one communication. It doesn't didn't shock me at all when I was reading through some of your stuff and I saw that, you know, guys would go to the champagne room to just sit and chat, because sometimes just that conversation is so much more valuable than any of the other sexual experiences that they can achieve, because at the end of the day, you can always please yourself sexually, but you can't like have a deep conversation with yourself exactly. There are a lot of people out there that you know. I know that I traveled around for work for many years and I would find myself like engaging in conversation with the girl at the hotel bar and then, you know, to a clock rings and it's time to go. What you don't want to leave that conversation, and it's not the sex or the companionship or anything like that. It's like that connection, that personal connection with another human that we just all crave so much. And now at you know, all these smartphones and the Internet and seven hundred channels on the TV, it's so hard it is to find those moments where you can just connect with somebody. How do you find the time, you know, to write the book with with your busy schedule and with being a mom? How do you find time? Because I know a lot of my listeners out there might want to or thinking about writing a book and the number one thing in their head is like, I don't have that's all the time, while dragon helps talk to it. But for me I found unschooling is what made everything work. When I decided to unschool, my children became a part of everything. My children became a part of cooking, my children became a part of cleaning, my children became a part of everything to where I wasn't doing everything on my own. Where I was when, when...

...they were in school, it was wake for me. It was wake up at three o'clock in the morning. So I can do my yoga so I can get them up in time to get them fed and ready for school then get to school. All Day Long I was teaching in the school and then we came home and then it was homework and then it was dinner and there was no family time ever. And I did everything and I was exhausted and when I stopped and said this is not the life I want to live anymore and we started unschooling, I found time and it was because everything was delegated, everything was a family project and they learned. My kids can cook. My children can make eggs benedict with salt ad spenage and salmon and like. They can really cook like a they throw it down like a chef. And it's not they didn't take culinary school, they just were in the kitchen with me and they did everything and it's it's made life much easier. Yeah, really has. So unschooling is kind of like an apprentice ship for life, you know, is it's like you learned exactly. Seems like you learn all these neat tricks and and basically just life lessons while you're going through because you're living it. You're not just, you know, learning about it in a book and I know, like I know we are talking about off air. Me Personally, I learn by someone showing me something to do. I can't. I don't really learn well by reading something in a book and then having to figure out then how to do that in real life. I'm more of a visual learner. Any other book topics are ideas you have on your brain? Well, I would like to suggest for people who can't just pull their kids out and on school and they're trying to find time, you know, to write, and it's just a matter of your priorities. You know, is is netflix bench. Do you need to really sit there and watch eight hours of a Netflix TV show? No, I mean the eight hours writing a book. You probably get eight thousand words out. Yeah, you know, it is true. Like the things that you really port he's the other things you really want to do in life, you have to, you know, prioritize it and make you will do the things that you put your priorities to. Yeah, you just have to her. I rearrange some of those priorities, but I am writing three books at once. So what are some of the what are the other two? Tell us a little bit about those. There is a manifestation book for children that I haven't gotten the title yet because I need to find out if I can use the title I want to use because I'm using star wars references for manifestation. So you know, all bad things are the dark side, like anger and jealousy and and all good things are you're aligned with the force. And when you're aligned with the force, then you're you're manifesting because you're in alignment with the universe. And then there is a an autobiography. It's called the broken stilettos and it's a double book autobiography. It's mine and my wife's, Chelsea as well, and that I've been writing for a year now, and it goes it starts with a dream that I had about a tsunami that I used to have that used to wake me up all the time when I was married. It starts with that dream and then it goes into it's one of those books that goes into the past and the present back and forth. So it's taking you on my journey now, but then it's tied into my past because every single person that I've ran into in this past year are resurfacing in my life from my previous, you know, premarriage life. So it's really neat how that's evolving. So your wife, is she a stripper as well? She is. She's a Canadian stripper, not a Canadian. Now. Is a Canadian stripper good thing or a bad thing? The only thing is she's not allowed to come here and work with me and I'm not allowed to go there and work with her. It's really like we have to do our things and separate consonants. And so why? Why don't you got? How is that? How hard is that to be away from your wife for so long, like long periods of Tom I would have so. Well, our life is really different. She's...

...like basically she is me, like when we met, we were it was like a twin flame connection, but it's not a romantic relationship where I love her so much but I still date men. I'm single right now and she believes in group love. So we found this method called polyamory, which is a thing. That's been a thing forever, but now it's a trend and it just means that we don't believe in ownership. So if I were to meet somebody in fall in love with him, I would be with him and only him and but he would know that Chelsea's also in my life, because she's going to be in my life forever. But it's not like I'm trying to start a hippie commune and create like a Mormon. What is it like? Polygamy? Polygamy? It's not polygamy. polyamory just means that you are accepting of the fact that you can fall all in love with more than one person at once and when it happens, you don't allow yourself to be judgmental and and think that it has to be me like. I don't believe that there is one person that can satisfy your every need for the rest of your life. I think that Disney fucked us with Cinderella and it doesn't exist, and that's why we all suffer, because you have to love yourself and when you love yourself, you're all good and people will gravitate to you. And sometimes you do fall in love with more than one person. My husband did and it hurt me and I thought he was the most terrible person for a really long time till I realized he never fell out of love with me, he just happened to love someone else at the same time. So when you take that concepts and you actually sit and think about it, it makes a whole lot more sense than just thinking, well, you told me it was me and only me forever, and we all change, we all grow, we all evolve and and sometimes you don't expect to fall in love with somebody else, but it just may happen. So when you allow yourself to be open to it, you don't get yourself hurt by it. Yeah, definitely. There's a quote. I can't remember who the author was, but he says that he always tells his wife he didn't want to say I love you forever till death do party goes. I promised to love you until I don't and then that's it. And then if I don't love you anymore, then I have to do its best for me exactly and go in a different direction. How often do you guys get to see each other? Oh, well, we live together and St John's. We have a house in Newfoundland. She's trying to come down here and visit probably in March, and I mean we spend a lot of time together. She's big part of my blog, a big part of my crazy adventures. It was really great having her come with me on the last year because she watched the kids when I worked and it's we see each other a lot. We don't miss a day that we don't message each other. That's good. That's good. It's hard to have those longdistance relationships, but when the love is deep and Real, it'll always find a way. Yeah, so to make it work out. Do you guys? So I'm just I'm gonna go off topic a little bit because now I'm just a little did I throw you off? Got Some questions. I got some questions. I like her balls, and this is the from a guy who dont like and I'm probably going to like lose my man card right here, like it's probably going to get taken from my pocket. But I'm not really big strip club type of guy. I find the whole point of it to be like ridiculous. It's like military intelligence. It's worse than that Haxy Moron right there. It's the worst thing, like a horny guy goes into a strip club to have a beautiful naked woman dance on them, to get even more Horny, to then have to go home, like just stay home and save your money on me. So I've just never and I of...

...like I'm really introverted and I have issues. You know, I grew up in the S, which stranger danger, right, so I have, like to this day, I have issues of like strangers touching me and like my me space. So my wife loves strip clubs, like it's kind of funny, but I'm just not a big fan. I like to go and I'll listen to the music because the music is always good, you know, especially if it's a hiphop strip club, because I've noticed, I've gone to a few and I've noticed, like some are like rock strip clubs and some are hip hop strip clubs and some are a mixture of both. So I do appreciate the hiphop strip clubs and sit back and have a couple drinks and listen to some good music and I enjoy looking at beautiful women. I just feel bad. It's kind of like ordering the water at the restaurant, you know what I'm saying? I'm like, I'm here, but no, thank you, like and I try to say, you know, no, thank you, not thank you. So, as a stripper and a stripper who has a wife as a stripper in a different country, do you guys like ever like talk about the different clientele that come from, like, you know, the US. I don't know what you call like a dude, and it's not a John Right, because that's like for a hookers. Yeah, what's like a dude in a Strip club called? Is there a name? Guys, I mean some girl. When you become a regular, will call you our customer, because that means you come back more than once. Or friend. I call my friends like if if we've exchanged phone numbers, you're my friend. Okay. So what are the differences? Are there any different princes between guys who go to strip clubs and Canada versus guys who go to strip clubs in the US? Not Really. I've never well the Canadian Strip clubs. They're they get a little wilder than the American ones, but the laws are the same, like the prostitution is still illegal, but there are still girls that do their their stuff and it's not allowed, just like in the United States. But I mean, the thing that annoys me is the guys that try to pick me up and they they message me on social media and then I'll tell them where I'm working and they say I'm not a strip club guy and I say, well, I'm not looking for a boyfriend. So if you want to see me, at least come into my to my place of work, where I feel safe because I have a bouncer, where I know that you can't do anything to me because I'm safe. And then if you want to buy me a drink there or or a water or whatever, and if you don't want to spend money, at least I've met you on a safe ground. For me as a single woman, I appreciate that a lot better than a hundred different guys trying to ask me out for dinner. You know, it just makes it better to be a stripper because I have a meeting ground where I have protection. Yeah, definitely, it kind of. It makes for an interesting first date, though I would assume I can't feel have you ever seen? Have you ever seen the movie blended with Adam Sandler, and it's like he he's a widower and he's got like two or three kids and then he meets a girl and she's got like, I think he's got two kids and she's got two kids and I in that one end up going on this vacation together, but they before that they go on this first date. They're set up by friends and they go on this first date and he takes her to hooters for the first date and she's totally the entire time judging him because he took her to hooters for the first time. But which doesn't realize is that and all the girls know his name and they're like super nice to him, but which she doesn't realize till later on in the movie is that his late wife was the manager that hooters, so he felt safe going there on a first date because he hadn't had a first date in like twenty years. Yeah, so it's kind of like the same thing. It'd be a weird first date, but I can see how for you, yeah, it would be a comfortable for first didn't if it was too weird for you for a first date. We have no business being together because it...

...is my life. Yeah, like, if stripping is uncomfortable for you, that's fine. Let it be uncomfortable for you, just don't pursue me. And that's that's my you know, there's somebody out there for everybody, exactly the one for you. Just because you think you want to get in my pants. If I make you uncomfortable, what's the point? Yeah, you can get in someone else's pants, right. Yeah, definitely can do that. So I have another question about Canadian stripping and then we could be done with that. So I've never been to a Canadian Strip club. HMM. I love Canada. I've been to Canada numerous times. So I've always wondered this and hopefully you can help me out. Canada, and I'm going to I'M gonna chop up the names. I'm going to mess them up because I'm not that smart. Canada, for their like one dollars and five dollars, have like Tuni's and looney's or something like that. Right, looney's and Tuny, looney's and tune dollar and two dollars. Yeah, so how do you? Where do you put it? Where do you put the money? You CAN'T PUT THE DOLLAR BILL IN A G string because it's a quarter, right. It's like this, like an American quarter. The Boys, well, where my wife works, they tip five dollar bills. If they're going to tip on the stage, nice a tip five. I have a girlfriend, she's in Australia right now, who works the west coast of Canada and they actually throw the looney's and tune he's on the stage at the girls and the girls have like these magnet things that catch them and it's just it's like a circus show. They're throwing, you know, they're actually throwing the money. The girls are trying to catch them between their legs and everything. I have not experienced that, but I've heard a lot of really crazy stories. A bit. But yeah, and over on the east coast they just tip fives. Okay, you don't get as many tips. It's more of quality over quantity, whereas the United States, I can walk off stage with three, four five hundred dollars in the right club because all of the singles are getting thrown. Yeah, and in, like you said, in the hip hop clubs they throw more money than they do in the rock clubs because it's the trend to make it rain. Okay, okay, so the rockers aren't jumped off their baller. If you're a baller, you're going to show your money. So instead of and you really spend the same amount of money, because the quiet guy in the corner, you know, the quiet little guy who is buying a drink, he's going to spend three hundred bills. The Ballard hip hop guy is going to spend three hundred singles. So his stack looks bigger, but he's spending the same amount of money and you don't have to worry about a choo chipped tooth by getting a lonear. Yeah, that's what I've always wanted. I'm like, those must hurt, like I've never had a looney thrown at me. Thank goodness, like that. That must hurt. That could not be comfortable situation, but I see so now. Well, in case, what wife and I were in Vancouver for a minute and we're thinking about going to it because she really likes strip clubs and not just kept playing to them. I'm like, how we all tip these people? Mike, I'm going to feel really uncomfortable throwing quarters out of woman. It's not to be. It's not going to be fun for me, but that's a good that's a good point of view. I like the way that you say, you know, because it's like that for any job out there. It doesn't have to just be stripping, because there are jobs out there that women have where they're really successful and there are men out there that can't handle that success. They can't handle dating a CEO or they can't handle dating someone like we're talking about off air, somebody who exercises all the time. You know, somebody who has their fitness together. You got to really find that person that's right for you. That's why, you know, I have my my program. Manifest your perfect mate and you're really you're not manifesting the perfect mate for your buddy or for your mom or for your dad or for your family or for society. You're manifesting the perfect mate for you, exactly for you what you love. MMM, that's cool. Well, I'm glad. I'm glad you have that, that partner that sees life the same way you do. And you guys can, you guys can experience the joy and the love and the relationship and all that stuff, because when you're both it would...

...be really hard to kind of have, you know, a polyamorous relationship with someone else who isn't on board with it. You know our favorite quote that will Chelsea made up this quote. She said don't date out your species. Okay, that's a good night. Out of your species, because some people are monogamous, or they want to believe they are, and some people know they're polyamorous or they have polyamorous Tennessee's and they try to pretend to be a monogamous it doesn't work. It really doesn't work. And a quick note. Here's the the asteris the fine print. Dudes, this does not mean you can go cheat on your wife and then come home and, when you get caught, say but babe on polyamorous. It doesn't work that way. It only works if you both are of the same species. You ought to sit here down and have this conversation beforehand, because this polyamory isn't just an excuse for you to go out there and try to get some ass. All right, so I'm giving you that Little Asterix now, gentlemen, okay, because it's to save you a lot and legal bills in the future. So I picked the song. You was kind of like on the on the rock train, and so I'm like, I'm gonna try to pick a little something. So I got trained. Feels good at first. Let's go. Teach me to fall and I teach you to sing. When life keeps stealing your mailllow del round your finger, I'll be a strange I will forget everything I know. By love, I don't know by love. She'll feels good, and first I'll learn to dance. If you promise not to last and I end up in a cast from fall little over and you can't get man when some girl, you think I hay, put a story in your head when I hardly know person about love. I don't know bout love. She'll feels good at first. Whoever spring there is a honey be that stings every fact. Get too close and it remand you show feels good and fir for every heartbreak there's a sermon to be sick, and this pastor in my heads preaching to the quire. Don't get me wrong, cause of too soon to decide, but the same, my first Rodeo on my heart's been rope and tied in love. I don't know about love, but shall feels good a first. Who every autumn colors come that you forgotten. Some Fas can change every frost, some live on, and so loss can change. Show feels good at first, to show feel good. Now Back to dad's for Swag with your...

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